"In every situation, there is at least one thing you do not know."
I remember hearing this statement years ago and thinking "Wow, how true that is!"
But then, as one does, I forgot all about it.
Until recently, when the tragedy happened, and even more when this started happening.
It comes so naturally to us to build whole scenarios on very few facts, then make premature judgement calls.
Very often we only hear one side of a story but have no problem drawing conclusions from that one-sided version.
Which almost always means deciding who is the "good guy" and who is "the "bad guy" and starting to act accordingly.
And in some cases, even worse, to talk accordingly - sharing our own limited version as though it were the whole story.
Life is just never that black and white
Especially when it comes to relationships
No one really knows the nuts and bolts of the relationships of others, no matter how close they are.
So making assumptions; jumping to conclusions - call it what you will - is not a wise thing to do.
But I have done it more times than I care to remember.
I shudder to think of the damage I might have caused in the process.
I hope I will stop now.
And learn a little wisdom
Or at least, show a little more humility.